I'm back

Sorry it has been so long since my last post, but life starts to happen and things get away from you. I hope to be a more regular blogger from now on, but please don't hold me to it. The lifestyle has had a few bright spots over the last year and a half, however there have been some definite lows. I have to say that when I started this lifestyle I truly believed that I would never cross the line of feelings, but may I just say I was wrong. I have managed to develop them for a friend, or ex-friend as he is now in a very vanilla relationship. Now that that is off my chest on to business. I mentioned in my first posts that if you are involved with someone in an alternative lifestyle the main thing is honesty. If I am honest with you about my relationship status I expect the same from you. I don't mind if you are married or in a full-time relationship. If I know these things it is easier to understand when you have difficulties scheduling and have to break dates. I actually prefer someone attached, they aren't as needy, and don't ask me to be exclusive. It seems more of a don't ask, don't tell policy. It seems that I am rambling this evening so enough for tonight.

The right way to break a date

Sorry I have missed you, but life has been busy. I wanted to take a minute and talk about breaking dates. This morning I received a text from a "friend" I hadn't heard from in awhile. May I start by saying what a wonderful surprise. Definitely the right way to start the 1st day back to work after a three day weekend. We exchanged a few niceties and a little "sexting", which led to a scheduled rendevouz for this evening, because as you know absence makes the heart grow fonder, or is that the panties wetter? What ever the case we were scheduled to meet this evening. I was to text him the address about a half hour before the scheduled meet time. BUUUUTTT, when I texted, he replied that he was very sorry he could not make it as he was at an unplanned family function and could we please reschedule. This was disappointing, however I absolutely no problem 1. forgiving him and 2. rescheduling. Here are my reasons. 1. He answered my text timely. There was no long wait, while wondering, did he get my text? did he blow me off? Nope simply a quick reply, telling me he couldn't make it. 2. He was apologetic. Whether he meant it or not, (I am inclined to think he did) he took the time to ask for forgiveness and stated that he was sorry. How polite. Wow! The last reason came from my friend but I quite agree. All of the above happened BEFORE I wasted my time taking a 2nd shower and all of the other additional nice things you should do to prepare for a gentleman caller. We have now rescheduled and I cannot wait.

Here are some bad ways to break a date: Mind you I have personally experienced everyone of them. Schedule a date and time then when a young lady calls to tell you she is on her way, say "Oh...yeah.. well... uh... I'm not home right now can we push it back an hour or so. The answer to that is FUCK NO! Oh and thanks for this being that important to you, and by the way I will remember that the next time you call or text and tell me how much you miss me. There is also the wonderful, we schedule a date and a half hour after you are supposed to show, you finally answer my text saying, "I'm so sorry baby I don't feel well and... well I just thought you would figure I wasn't coming when you didn't hear from me". No I didn't just figure you weren't coming. Just because this is a date for, to put it bluntly, fucking, doesn't NOT mean you are now absolved of all manners. There is also the no call, no show, don't answer my call or text. You better be dead or in the hospital if you have the balls to call me again. So now I have explained the correct and incorrect ways to break a date. When in doubt just think common courtesy. If you would call and explain it to anyone one else, you should do so for the person you are trying to lay. Make to many willing women angry, and you may never get laid again.

A New Hope

I have been talking to the sweetest young man. I say young because he is 10yrs my junior. He e-mailed me on a swingers website and we have been chatting a little over the last few days. He is very respectful, wants to make sure I am not a cheating spouse, (that's a funny one), and wants to meet my husband before anything further. He also asked if we could all hang out sometime. May I just say WOW! It's amazing the difference in men, and in just a few days. I think my faith in humanity is restored! Now if he is as gifted and talented as he is sweet. I can't wait to find out.

Happy Monday

Sorry I missed yesterday, I was in recovery from being confronted by text from a "baby's mama". Which brings me back to; if you are not single, handle your business or back off. Today I feel like discussing correspondence etiquette. This is NSA (for those of you that are unfamiliar that is No Strings Attached) sex. This is not a booty call. The Swinger Lifestyle is not a super free for all orgy. Even open marriages and open relationships are not free for all's. If you are calling, texting, e-mailing or whatever, you are talking to a human being, not a hole. If someone texts you, answer. Even if it's to say, "Hey, I'm busy right now. Not sure when I can get back to you". It's polite and this is a human interaction. You also have to work with our schedules. Most women have a full-time job. Although I would love to send all of my days and nights fucking and pleasing men, I have to work because fucking does not pay the bills. I cannot just run when ask, no matter how great of lay you are. it is also nice to show up if you say you are, or call if you are not. Again, common courtesy. Just a few tips there.

I think I am getting of track here. This is truly not a bitch session. I just wanted to point out a few things that have caused a problem with the Lifestyle over the last few years.

Hello World!

Let me just start by saying I have wanted to do this forever. I have so many things I want to express, however never found the correct forum. So I now say " Hello world here I am".

I am a forty something woman who has been in and out of the Swinger Lifestyle for the better part of my adult life. I have had both amazing experiences and horrible ones, but all have been learning experiences and I would like to use my firsthand knowledge with other people. I am not sure what I have been doing over the last 20 yrs would qualify as the "text book" swinger, however I am positive it is as least on the fringe. I have always found it interesting that society; although they find it very appalling, has accepted cheating men as standard practice but cheating women are sluts, or a couple who has an open marriage is disgusting. It seems if the woman in the relationship is the one getting laid that society has a complete fit. In society men are sexual and women who are sexual are sluts, whores, and home wreckers. Not a fair comparison in my book. I have flirted, joked, teased, and yes, had sex with many men in the last twenty years and I am none of the above. I am simply a woman who appreciates all men and any wonderful qualities they possess. For the women reading this thinking that women like me want their husbands or boyfriends, let me set the record straight. I do not. I have been married for 23 yrs to the same man and he is the only one I love. I will however show them what it is like to be with a woman who is completely sexually uninhibited and very rarely says no to any reasonable offer. Bottom-line: sex is fun! Now on to all of you men in the life style. If you are attached (ei. married, girlfriend, live-in, living with your baby's momma) and you want to play, be smart, handle your business. Women like me do not want texts, phone calls, or e-mails form the women you are not being straight with. Either be honest with them or be more careful about covering your tracks. Now with all of that being said, I want to say that this blog will be many things. One will basically be swinging for dummies. It will also serve as my own little Penthouse Forum, because sometimes the story is just to juicy not to share or I need the anonymous confession.