Wednesday, August 31, 2011

A New Hope

I have been talking to the sweetest young man. I say young because he is 10yrs my junior. He e-mailed me on a swingers website and we have been chatting a little over the last few days. He is very respectful, wants to make sure I am not a cheating spouse, (that's a funny one), and wants to meet my husband before anything further. He also asked if we could all hang out sometime. May I just say WOW! It's amazing the difference in men, and in just a few days. I think my faith in humanity is restored! Now if he is as gifted and talented as he is sweet. I can't wait to find out.

Monday, August 29, 2011

Happy Monday

Sorry I missed yesterday, I was in recovery from being confronted by text from a "baby's mama". Which brings me back to; if you are not single, handle your business or back off. Today I feel like discussing correspondence etiquette. This is NSA (for those of you that are unfamiliar that is No Strings Attached) sex. This is not a booty call. The Swinger Lifestyle is not a super free for all orgy. Even open marriages and open relationships are not free for all's. If you are calling, texting, e-mailing or whatever, you are talking to a human being, not a hole. If someone texts you, answer. Even if it's to say, "Hey, I'm busy right now. Not sure when I can get back to you". It's polite and this is a human interaction. You also have to work with our schedules. Most women have a full-time job. Although I would love to send all of my days and nights fucking and pleasing men, I have to work because fucking does not pay the bills. I cannot just run when ask, no matter how great of lay you are. it is also nice to show up if you say you are, or call if you are not. Again, common courtesy. Just a few tips there.

I think I am getting of track here. This is truly not a bitch session. I just wanted to point out a few things that have caused a problem with the Lifestyle over the last few years.

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Hello World!

Let me just start by saying I have wanted to do this forever. I have so many things I want to express, however never found the correct forum. So I now say " Hello world here I am".

I am a forty something woman who has been in and out of the Swinger Lifestyle for the better part of my adult life. I have had both amazing experiences and horrible ones, but all have been learning experiences and I would like to use my firsthand knowledge with other people. I am not sure what I have been doing over the last 20 yrs would qualify as the "text book" swinger, however I am positive it is as least on the fringe. I have always found it interesting that society; although they find it very appalling, has accepted cheating men as standard practice but cheating women are sluts, or a couple who has an open marriage is disgusting. It seems if the woman in the relationship is the one getting laid that society has a complete fit. In society men are sexual and women who are sexual are sluts, whores, and home wreckers. Not a fair comparison in my book. I have flirted, joked, teased, and yes, had sex with many men in the last twenty years and I am none of the above. I am simply a woman who appreciates all men and any wonderful qualities they possess. For the women reading this thinking that women like me want their husbands or boyfriends, let me set the record straight. I do not. I have been married for 23 yrs to the same man and he is the only one I love. I will however show them what it is like to be with a woman who is completely sexually uninhibited and very rarely says no to any reasonable offer. Bottom-line: sex is fun! Now on to all of you men in the life style. If you are attached (ei. married, girlfriend, live-in, living with your baby's momma) and you want to play, be smart, handle your business. Women like me do not want texts, phone calls, or e-mails form the women you are not being straight with. Either be honest with them or be more careful about covering your tracks. Now with all of that being said, I want to say that this blog will be many things. One will basically be swinging for dummies. It will also serve as my own little Penthouse Forum, because sometimes the story is just to juicy not to share or I need the anonymous confession.